Your Twin Flame Is Your Guru

By: Michelle S. Fondin 

A couple of days ago, I went to see Amma, the hugging saint, who was visiting near my home. If you don’t know who Amma is, she’s an Indian woman whose vocation and mission is to help embrace the world. To this end, she gives hugs. She hugs people for up to sixteen hours per day sometimes. Her energy alone can heal. Over the years, she’s created many charitable organizations to feed the hungry, and she most recently built a hospital in her home state in India.

     As you can imagine, thousands of followers and spiritual seekers attend her events. This was my third time seeing Amma, and each time, it was special.

     Since over a thousand people come for her embrace, you must arrive early and get a ticket with a number to get your hug. When your time arrives, you are put into a seated queue, two rows across, and slowly moved up until you reach the stage where Amma is seated.

     Next to me sat an older gentleman from Australia who began to tell me his story. He mentioned that he wasn’t a devotee of Amma but that he admired and respected her. Then he explained to me that he came to California for his own guru (a person I had never heard of) back in 2017. As we slowly moved up the queue, I could see that this man was still seeking. He recounted stories of seeing this guru or that one and asked me if I had a guru.

     I shrugged and said, “Well, I guess Amma would be my guru. I have a blanket with her image, and I meditate with this blanket daily. But I have also studied with Deepak Chopra and worked with him for some time.”

     This didn’t seem to satisfy my seatmate. “Well, you need a guru,” he insisted. “Everyone should have a guru. They constantly challenge and push you to learn and be more. They will call bullshit on your stuff, even when you think you’ve got it figured out.”

     The ego part of me was tempted to ask him why his mind was so turbulent after studying with a guru for so long, but I refrained.

In Sanskrit, the word guru refers to a mentor, guide, or spiritual teacher. The meaning of the word guru is “dispeller of darkness.”

But later in the day, it got me thinking. I do have a guru, my twin flame.

     My twin flame has pushed and challenged me in ways I never thought possible. Most of the feelings associated with meeting and moving through the twin flame experience were ones I never wanted: rejection, obsession, a sense of unworthiness, anger, frustration, impatience, depression, indignation, self-doubt, loneliness, and separation or desperation. And yet, one by one, I was forced to face and work through them. My darker feelings had to be brought to the light and faced full-on.

     Like a guru, your twin flame draws you in and shows you your weaknesses.

     Before I met my twin flame, my greatest fear was being alone. I feared that I might never be with my true love and that I might end up like my mother, who gave up on romantic love when I was young.

     A month before I met my twin flame, I saw my greatest fear coming true. Due to a child custody case, my son wasn’t allowed to live in California with me, where I had recently relocated. I found myself alone in California, living on my own for the first time since I was nineteen. If that wasn’t bad enough, six weeks after I met my twin flame, he rejected me hard.

     Both of my greatest fears came true simultaneously, and my twin flame journey had much to do with it.

     I felt unloved, and this feeling remained steadfast until I could find love within, first from my Creator and then for myself. My full story, described in my books Twin Flame Romance: The Journey to Unconditional Love and Twin Flame Union: The Seven Keys to a Healthy Twin Flame Journey, explains why that period of my life affected me so deeply.

If the guru's job is to bring your inner darkness to the surface, then a twin flame does a quick job of it.

 The best spiritual teacher will give you unconditional love while showing you the way to Spirit. Your twin flame’s soul will also give you unconditional love so you can find your way back to it.

     After I realized this, I thought, What if the whole point and purpose of a twin flame is to help you dispel your darkness and show the way to the light?

      Most twin flames hang on to the notion that their twin flame is the ultimate romantic partner that will bring them the most blissful human relationship on the planet.  Once in physical separation, the awakened twin flame seeks a physical reunion with their twin flame person, just like my seatmate companion at the Amma event. After seven years of following his guru, he still had no idea that the answers to unity reside within, and the twin flame seeker grasps outside of themselves for unity. But the truth is, the answers are inside of you.

Therefore, the best twin flame will show you the way back to Spirit and not to them.

      After nearly six years on the twin flame journey and having coached well over one thousand twin flames. I am confident in proposing the following.

If you are still seeking a physical connection with your twin flame over a spiritual one, you’re missing the lesson of the entire twin flame journey.

     I know this isn't easy to comprehend and accept. But watch and observe. Each time you grasp onto your twin flame on the physical plane, watch as they push you away.

     If this is difficult to believe, ask yourself why your twin flame would cause a spontaneous spiritual awakening in you if the journey was about the physical.

     In researching my upcoming book, I’ve been reading the ancient Indian Vedic text, the Upanishads. This piece of fundamental spiritual literature, written over 4,000 years ago, is comprised of stories of the guru and the student. Throughout the work, the student comes to the teacher seeking answers. The teacher often pushes the students away to seek the answers themselves. It’s a push-pull struggle of students often wanting the easy way out.

     But once the student understands the pathway to enlightenment, the teacher welcomes them in. Is it possible then that once you fully understand the pathway to unconditional love and live through that, your twin flame will welcome you in?

     My guess is maybe, but then maybe not.

     In answering the Australian man's question, the reason I don’t have a guru is that I live the pathway to unconditional love. The student seeks the teacher to show them the way. When the way is found, no teacher is needed. And if the teacher has done their job well, the student becomes a teacher for others.

     My guru, my twin flame, showed me the way through my own darkness into the light. And that was all that was needed. If he shows up in the physical realm. So be it. That is neither here nor there.

     I am that. I am the light. I am unconditional love. And that is all a seeker can seek to know.

Tat tvam asi. (I am that. Or Thou Art That.)

Hari Om Tat Sat.

Love,

Michelle